Finding Real Solitude and Seclusion
Unlike our ancestors, modern humans have to be intentional about finding solitude in a secluded environment.
Humans throughout history experienced solitude as part of everyday life. Their lifestyles necessitated it. But in today's fast-paced and hyper-connected world, finding moments of solitude in a secluded environment has become a real challenge. Whether at work, at home, or on our phones— we are constantly surrounded by people, noise, and distractions, leaving little room for quiet reflection and self-discovery. We find little time to get away by ourselves on a regular basis; and even when we have the time we don’t know where to go.
Richard Foster referred to solitude as "the great liberator." In seclusion, we are freed from the constant chatter and demands of modern life. We are released from the grip of useless trivialities and the weight of our false selves. Solitude liberates us from the burden of expectations and the pretense and manipulation of human interactions.
Solitude and seclusion provide us with the opportunity to be fully present with ourselves and with God. Alone and away from distractions and external influences, we can be honest with ourselves, engage in deep introspection, and extend grace to ourselves. In solitude, we cultivate self-awareness, gain clarity of thought, and discern the voice of our innermost being. Here, we can experience a profound connection with the divine.
Today’s spiritual teachers often encourage us to step away from our screens. Their idea is that the easiest access to solitude in the modern world is to be free from the intrusion of social media, our work, and other technological distractions. While this is a good first step, it is not enough. Solitude is not just a state of mind, nor is it just a break from our daily habits related to technology. Solitude by its very definition is a place first and a state second.
"Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He [Jesus] went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed"
Mark 1:35, NKJV
Jesus physically removed himself to a solitary place. He changed his environment. Then he prayed. We should not be surprised that Jesus would do such a thing. At the time of his baptism, he was driven into the lonely spaces of the wilderness to pray, fast, and be tested. Years later, as Jesus's popularity grew, so did the demands on his time and attention. However, he did not succumb to the allure of crowds or chase after fame. Instead, he intentionally pursued solitude. This deliberate act speaks volumes about the importance Jesus placed on finding moments of aloneness away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. It was in these secluded moments that Jesus could truly connect with God and replenish his spirit.
If we neglect the practice of solitude, our bodies, minds, and spirits will wear thin. We cannot indefinitely sustain the constant demands and noise of our daily lives without consequences. Sooner or later, we will be forced to seek out a secluded environment in order to recover and rejuvenate.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
Buddhist Proverb
Here are some ways we can practice solitude daily that go beyond just stepping away from our phones and screens.
Schedule it. Be intentional and give yourself enough time every day to be alone. Along with all your other priorities for work and life, it belongs on your schedule.
Explore natural settings such as parks, forests, or beaches where you can immerse yourself in the beauty of nature and find solitude in a serene environment.
Create a sacred space in your home or find a quiet room where you can retreat to be alone with your thoughts and prayers. In the Pentecostal tradition, we called this a “prayer closet.”
Make sure you are alone both physically and virtually. Unplug from technology and create boundaries to minimize distractions during your time of solitude