You brought this home with the last paragraph. Love with boundaries is extremely difficult, especially for people whose desire to exert control and change over the other person overpowers their ability to let go of the puppet strings when the change isn't happening the way they think it should. The boundaries get knocked down when emotions become enmeshed, which is the birthplace of codependency. It truly is a tightrope, and some people simply have a predisposition to weigh more heavily on the empathy side, which can cause pain for both parties when it gets unhealthy.
Great feedback. I have many thoughts about the codependent nature of relationships often fostered in church and faith communities. Perhaps I will write about that in the future.
You brought this home with the last paragraph. Love with boundaries is extremely difficult, especially for people whose desire to exert control and change over the other person overpowers their ability to let go of the puppet strings when the change isn't happening the way they think it should. The boundaries get knocked down when emotions become enmeshed, which is the birthplace of codependency. It truly is a tightrope, and some people simply have a predisposition to weigh more heavily on the empathy side, which can cause pain for both parties when it gets unhealthy.
Great feedback. I have many thoughts about the codependent nature of relationships often fostered in church and faith communities. Perhaps I will write about that in the future.